Hard Choice #5 – “We Ignored the Haters”
As many people are beginning to read “Lost + Found: Finding Myself by Getting Lost in an Affair”, we are sharing 5 Hard Choices We Made During Our Reconciliation. These are key ways that we were able to deal with the pain and brokenness in our marriage instead of simply sweeping it under the rug. Whether you’re dealing with overcoming an affair or simply trying to develop a more intimate relationship, we hope these choices may be beneficial to you as well.
Over the past week, we’ve shared these concepts with you…
Choice #1 – “I Shut My Mouth”
Choice #2 – “We Looked in the Mirror”
Choice #3 – “I’m Sorry Wasn’t Enough”
Choice #4 – “We Waded Into the Pain”
Today, we’re sharing the final decision in this series that helped us develop personal health that led to a great possibility of reconciliation in our marriage. Feel free to watch the short video or read a few insights below.
Choice #5 – “We Ignored the Haters”
As we began the reconciliation process, there were many people who had opinions about our relationship. Although there were some who were supportive, the loudest voices seemed to be those who were leery, anxious, or simply against us reconciling. Most all of the voices were aimed in the direction of my wife.
“Be careful…he’ll just do it again.”
“I wouldn’t ever take him back.”
“He’s just manipulating you.”
So many people were hurt because of my inappropriate choices and subsequent resignation as the pastor of the church we started. It’s easy for any person who makes those choices to be “demonized” in the eyes of those who are disappointed. Anything you say or do can be misconstrued as evil, hurtful, or manipulative.
It’s been a tough road, but we’ve learned to ignore the haters.
I should rephrase that…we’ve learned to ignore the hateful and hopeless words and hearsay. Our focus is on developing a healthy, hope-filled relationship and helping others do the same. As we see people from our old life out in public, our desire is to warmly greet them…no matter what we’ve ‘heard’ them say in the past. Love conquers all.
Over the past week, we’ve share 5 hard choices that we had to make. How about you? What hard choices have you made in the past (or even the present) in the midst of reconciling a relationship?
