Your Husband May Be Having an Affair

Listen to the words of my wife in the Afterword from my upcoming book “Lost & Found: Finding Myself by Getting Lost in an Affair” (to be released in August 2010)…

I never thought that I would have to worry about my husband cheating on me. We seemed to have a good marriage, and we rarely had an argument. We built a great life together…two beautiful kids, a wonderful home, and a church that loved and supported us before this all happened.

I knew that Dave was getting burned out with his role as the pastor of our church. I listened intently and wanted him to feel less stressed, but it only seemed to intensify as the years went on. He was running so fast and pushing so hard, but I had no idea this could happen. When he went to India in February of 2008, I had no idea that he was going to hit his breaking point, and things would never be the same again. Living through an affair and then choosing to reconcile is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face.

You probably don’t think you have to worry about it either. My wife didn’t…and she was wrong. Conservative estimates are that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. It could be happening to you right now, and you don’t even know it.

He could be flirting with the young girl at the office.
He may be listening to his assistant’s marital challenges with a sympathetic ear.
He might be messaging with an old college girlfriend on Facebook.

You don’t know what he’s doing in his spare time, do you?
Have you ever been cheated on? How did you find out?
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In preparation for the release of my new book “Lost & Found“, I’ll be addressing the topic of affairs and infidelity over the next few weeks. If you have a question you’d like me to address, email me. Tomorrow, I’ll share “10 Signs That Your Man May Be Cheating.”