Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Wife

Posted on June 9, 2010

If you’re contemplating an affair or simply leaving your wife, there are innumerable reasons why you should go through with the decision. Since I have some experience in this area, I’d be happy to share a few of my thoughts in the form of the top 10 reasons to go for it.

Perhaps you’re feeling bored with your marriage…more like roommates than anything else. Or, maybe you’re experiencing so much conflict with her that you just can’t take it anymore. Or, you may not be attracted anymore to the woman you originally pledged your love to (i.e., your wife), and you’ve found some hot chick at work…or church.

Whatever the situation may be, you’ve probably been searching for “good reasons” to go ahead and make a move. You know all the reasons NOT to do it, but you’re probably hoping that there is another perspective that would align with the longings of your heart. Well, you’ve come to the right place. All those men’s magazines tell you how to get laid, but I want to help you understand why to have the affair.

You may not actually want to physically “leave” your wife…maybe you just want to have a little fun on the side. Statistics show that if you cheat (and get caught), you’ll eventually leave her…or she’ll leave you. One or the other usually happens. Well, let’s cut to the chase!

If you leave your wife, you can expect to…

10. Enjoy plenty of time and space to do your own thing.

All those “honey do” lists will be long gone. There will only be one thing she’ll want you to do…move out. Unfortunately, you’ll need to have a brief conversation about finances and how that will all work. She’ll probably get really angry with you, but it will be worth it. You will soon be shopping for your own apartment, and you can choose whatever you want. At first, you’ll get excited about that killer bachelor pad in the cool part of town (by the beach if you live near one), but you’ll probably settle for the most affordable option…a studio apartment or a one-bedroom unit near your family’s home (where you used to live). You’ll pull together whatever furniture you can find, and your schedule will be completely freed up. That is, once you shop for all the things you took for granted at your former home…pots, pans, towels, sheets, toilet paper, soap…you get the point. Have fun with all that new-found time and space!

9. Watch any movie you want and play video games 24/7.

You know all those violent action movies or pay-per-view pornos…feel free to watch them now. No one will be complaining or watching over your shoulder. On top of that, you’ll need to buy a new video game system for the kids when they come over. And, the great thing about it is…you’ll get to play it 24/7 when they’re not around. Your wife won’t be around to want your attention anymore. You’ll be able to turn off all the lights, crank up the sound, and kill everything in sight!

8. Eat anything and everything.

You know how your wife used to keep the fridge and cabinets stocked with all sorts of food? You get to do that now. (By the way, did you buy a refrigerator yet? You’ll probably need one of those.) Fill it with as much meat as you want…or microwave meals. Those things are way easier to fix than anything else, and there’s not a single thing to wash…as long as you use a plastic fork as well. Those are quite handy! If you don’t feel like eating, you won’t need to. And, if you just want to eat a bunch of crap all the time, go right ahead…hit that drive-thru every day on the way to and from work. By the way, be prepared to buy some bigger pants!

7. Work out as much or little as you’d like.

Since you’ll have so much time on your hands, working out may become a nightly activity for yourself. In the past, you may not have had enough time with some of your family duties, but now you’ll have more time than you know what to do with. You’ll probably want to lose those 10-100 pounds you’ve been packing on during the comfy years of marriage, because the hottie you’re having an affair with won’t be that impressed. If you’re not already having an affair, you’ll definitely want to lose the weight in preparation to find a new and improved woman. Jump on that treadmill, and start sweatin’ off the pounds!

6. Spend only a few hours a week with the kids.

I know you love your kids, but let’s just admit that they can be a pain in the butt. They’re completely self-centered. They want everything in sight. And, on top of that, they whine and cry. Another great thing about leaving your wife is that the kids will stay with her. You’ll have another one of those brief, painful conversations about when, where, and how you’ll spend time with the little rugrats. In the beginning, you’ll be bummed that you don’t get to see them all the time, but you’ll get over it. Every time you see them, you’ll do whatever it takes to make them happy. You’ll buy them toys, games, and fun stuff to eat. And, you can take them to places that their mother can’t afford to take them to…amusement parks, out to dinner, and any movie they want to see. Once they go home, you won’t have to worry about baths, homework, or bedtime craziness. Of course, you’ll miss out on the before-bed routines…answering precious questions, praying with them, and snuggling in bed. But, that’s okay, you won’t have to put up with all the tough stuff either!

5. Experience the golden silence of no nagging wife or screaming children.

Once the kids are back at the house where you used to live, you’ll have your apartment all to yourself. Total and complete silence…no more nagging wife telling you to pick up your underwear or wash your dishes or quit farting during dinner. No more screaming and whining from the kids when you ask them to do their homework, clean their room, or brush their teeth before bed. How does that silence sound to your ears? Golden? Yeah, now you can replace it with more soothing noises…music, movies, video games, and the crunching of chips as you eat them all alone in peace. You’ll start to hear the clock tick, the fan in your computer spin, and the footsteps of your neighbors as they approach their door. You’ll hear everything…even the voices within. How does all that sound?

4. Choose whether or not you even want to go to church.

You know how your wife asked you about all that spiritual stuff? Maybe even going to church? Now, you won’t have to deal with any of that nonsense. Let her chat about all that touchy-feely crap with all her girlfriends. Be a man, and be strong! All that Christian crap is for people who just need a crutch to deal with life. I’m sure you won’t need any of that. It doesn’t work anyway, right? Just pop open a beer, and plop down in front of the TV to veg out. Find something else to make you feel good….anything…just figure out what works for you. Of course, if all else fails, that whole God thing could be a back up plan. What do you think?

3. Have the opportunity to date anyone you meet.

Total and complete freedom…that’s what this new life is all about. Anyone you meet is fair game. Sign up for match.com or eHarmony. Create that profile…but you should probably omit that whole “I-just-left-my-wife” thing. That’s not exactly attractive to all those women looking for Mr. Right. I guess you’ll need to do one of two things. One option is to come up with a “story” that explains away that white ring around your finger where your wedding band used to sit. Maybe you could say that your wife died…or she’s the one who left. I’m sure you’ll come up with something. The second option is to date women who don’t care that you just left your wife. You’ll probably find those gals at the club downtown. Look for the really high skirts and the clear high heels.

2. Work as many hours as you’d like.

If you like to work a lot, now is your opportunity! Don’t worry about making it home for dinner on time. Make those extra calls. Take on that project that no one else wants to work on. Suck up to your boss and do whatever he/she wants you to do. On top of that, you can now take clients out for drinks, and you won’t need to worry about getting home before the kids go to bed. With all these extra hours at work, people will notice that you’re an amazing team member. They’ll affirm you for your hard work like your wife and kids never could. Congrats on finally getting the attention and affirmation of the people who matter the most!

1. Enjoy lots and lots of sex.

Finally, the number one reason to leave your wife…sex. Let’s face it. Your sex life hasn’t been that great recently…right?  Now you can have sex every single day with that new hot flame you’ve hooked up with…no need to sneak around anymore! It’s new and exciting, and you won’t be able to keep your hands off one another. In fact, you’ll probably be making love multiple times a day…before and after work. You’re finally living every guy’s dream. Of course, it’ll slow down eventually. Sooner or later, you’ll need to develop an actual relationship where you talk more than you grope and develop vulnerable intimacy more than getting naked. Don’t worry about that now though. There’s plenty of time to figure that out later…just like you did in your last marriage, right? If you’re not having an affair already, you’ll now have the chance to hook up with anyone you meet…at least whoever wants to be with a guy who’s just left his wife. I’m sure there are plenty of women out there like that.

There are plenty of “reasons” to leave your wife…whether you’ve had the balls to have an affair yet or not. If these reasons haven’t convinced you quite yet (to avoid the pain we went through) and you’re still contemplating what to do with your life, Laura and I would love to be a resource for you and your wife. Email us for help.


144 Replies to "Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Wife"

  • Pete
    August 19, 2013 (6:08 pm)
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    Been married for 11 years. No kids. Easy to explain why – we don't have sex. Except when she wants, which is never. I almost had an affair recently. Didn't go through with it, but now that it's over, all I can think about is that I wish I did. Should I be scared into commitment by the fear of what I would lose? The loneliness, the clock ticking? That would be a hell of an improvement over having to listen to Grey's Anatomy at full volume day and night.

    • Pete II
      September 16, 2013 (4:04 pm)
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      Hi Pete, let me say the best thing I have ever done in my life is to have an affair……………. for over twenty years! I only stayed because I loved my two kids, The other woman was slightly older and had already divorced and never wanted to re-marry, I can understand why, but she was hot and just loved sex, the best years of my life were spent with her as she accepted me as I was and she had no baggage so to speak.
      Nothing better than coming home to face the fat lazy slob who thought by closing her fat tree trunk legs was a means of punishment to me for not being "Nice" by not buying her gifts and doing her chores? Well some times my balls used to ache when I came home and I just laughed inside…………….. if you only knew I used to think to myself, if you only knew.
      Pete, you are only on this planet once, enjoy it and yourself!

    • Didier
      September 26, 2014 (3:53 pm)
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      Loneliness is underrated.

  • A.D
    August 20, 2013 (3:38 pm)
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    My sex life has gone kaput.Early marriage years was good,but now its not easy to always accept the fact that wife lied her headache. Having sex a month that too only for 10 mins is an insult to the injury. I think splitting bed should work.That should kill the anticipation.

  • Ron Baribeau
    August 28, 2013 (9:15 am)
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    All we do is fight! The silent treatment I get means no drama, no whining about her kids and I don’t have to hear how every situation is a crisis! I have a job offer in another state so it’s a clean break! She can have the house! I need out before I lose my mind!

  • ButtHEAD
    September 16, 2013 (11:35 pm)
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    This is fucking stupid. You assume that the wife and husband have some 1950's gender role. Sorry grandpa, relationships are not like that anymore. I work my ass off in the house and have a job. I cook every night, clean the house and do most of the laundry. My wife is still a bitch. If anything in your outdated system our roles are reversed. She is still unhappy, dishes not done, dinner not done on time, didn't fix the sprinklers fast enough. Assholes are assholes and bitches are bitches doesn't matter the gender. Kill me now.

    • Butt HEAD2
      January 17, 2014 (5:13 pm)
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      Hahahaha.. Seems u in a miserable condition with some funny humer there :)..I liked it mate..Keep the cleaning gloves on.. Pretty much same here but she wont agree on this point :)

    • cdg
      January 26, 2014 (4:07 pm)
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      Yea sounds like ur wife has Bi-polar disorder like mine. I want to jump infront of a bus everyday, Its like living in your personal little hell. This article is so black and white its laughable.

    • JJ
      March 27, 2014 (8:08 pm)
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      Who does woman’s work? North American guys!
      Bravo! You learned it in a hard way… Bitch is always a bitch!

      I personally don’t move a finger. It makes no difference. It is nothing about being a tit..
      Stop sucking up guys. While some of you acting like women, normal guys are suffering because they are not “proper” men. C’mon.. grow balls

  • mike
    October 7, 2013 (1:02 am)
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    Going on six years in this Hell. The only reason I’v stayed so long is for my son. I work. I clean the kitchen because I want her to cook. Her procrastination leads to arguments. This same scenario means missed meals for me. She is so needy, if she’s not braking her car or some how broke because she can’t distinguish between wants and needs an burns money like she’s rich.

  • Tim
    October 15, 2013 (10:51 pm)
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    Been married 5 years. The first few we’re good. One of them we were apart while I was in Afghanistan. About 2 years ago caught her sending nude photos to another guy. No proof of anything else as he lived far away. Just trying to deal with the thought pisses me off. Together we have 4 kids (2 are mine) I’m disabled now. I cook, clean, take care of the kids. Sex is few and far between. Before she was a self pic taking whore, I trusted her more than I ever have anyone before. Now, that shit pops in my head all the time.

    We own our home- paid for

    We own another home, also paid for but not far from the other.

    My youngest (2year old), absolutely loves me. I spend almost every moment of the day with him, every day.

    I’d leave her in a minute if not for him. I couldn’t bare having an “every other weekend” arrangement.

    We argue constantly. I’m depressed all the time. Some mornings when I wake up, all I do is look forward to going back to bed.

    She looks me in the eyes and tells me she loves me, but I can’t do the same. I’ve let my anger build up so long I’m not sure how long I can take it.

    I pray she’s cheating on me and wants to magically move away. That would solve a lot.

    I doubt shed try keeping the kids if she were the one to leave. But I feel if I leave she’d keep me from them just out of spite.

    I’m too old for this shit.

    Any suggestions

    • that guy
      November 20, 2013 (1:22 am)
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      I fell the same way we’ve been married for 5 years 2 kids we’ve been separated a few times each time she finds another man through the whole time me like a fool stayed loyal through it all we have our kids & we love each other i come in from work & they run to me everyday i don’t know how to leave them my little girl always says i just want you and mommy to be together at the same time she has nowhere to go because everyone she knows knows shes a bitch even her family wont take her so i fell bad… im just lost

    • American-Dad
      May 5, 2014 (12:02 pm)
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      I feel your pain. felt like I was reading my own story. except the sexting stuff

  • Sammy
    October 29, 2013 (9:48 am)
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    It is good hearing it from the man's perspective. My husband left me for a younger woman. We have 2 girls and aren't divorced yet. The one thing I want to ask you: Don't fake it !!! Be true to yourselves and your wives. I never saw this coming. We had (have)a great sex life, We communicate really well… Everyone said we were the perfect couple. Don't suffer in silence. Speak up and let your wife know. By the way ,,, the grass wasn't greener on the other side in his case. I take my hat off to the fathers that take care of their kids regardless of their feelings toward the mother of their kids :-)

  • stephen
    November 20, 2013 (3:00 pm)
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    I only stay for the kids but I can no longer take it.Where do I start. Every day is the same. Sex once a year and there is no love. She drinks all the time. Has left with the kids to ny from Colorado so many times. Finally we lost our house, land in cali, and a thriving painting business. She bankruptcy our family and her father. Now we live with him. Painted his house, deck, and have cleaned years of neglect. I have worked through thyroid disease(she left me having a seizure on the floor. Total lawyer bills are close to 100000 between her dad and I. Have not even got a birthday present in years

  • David
    December 30, 2013 (9:16 pm)
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    I thought about leaving, but never did. I went to marriage counselling with my wife after catching HER cheating. She lied all the way through it, then left me for another man. Women get away with murder for what she did. You should direct this article towards women because they are the ones overwhelmingly ABUSING their relationships and coming out on top legally.

  • My Info
    January 6, 2014 (1:51 am)
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    David that last article I can relate same thing I’m going through I get kick out of my own house and and sent the slammer for a fight she started.go to court ,cant go back home live with family….all in the way of there knew marriage in there home living on rhe floor.get place on childsupport after we made up.and all I do is love the woman but thats not good enough.wife still start fights and its still my fault.over treat her.and she still bitches about everything.I think this the last of trying to make it work.

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    January 21, 2014 (10:22 am)
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    • Dorkimus
      March 22, 2014 (10:17 am)
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    February 8, 2014 (8:16 pm)
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  • Dorkimus
    March 22, 2014 (10:15 am)
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    This is a dumb article written by a very shallow man.

    It makes me sad to see so many men saying they stay in their marriage because of their children. My wife of 26 years has told me twice that her horses are more important than me and it’s killing me. Since she said it last time 2 weeks ago all I can think of is being alone the rest of my life, with her gone SIX HOURS EVERY DAY to visit her horses. For the last 2 weeks she has been sweet as honey to me but our relationship seems to be like so many others – no affection, not much care. We don’t even say good night to each other. We are still together because my 19 year old daughter told me it’s important to her. I love my wife and like her as a person and nothing would make me happier than her deciding her marriage is more important than her hobby but it isn’t going to happen. Every day I die a little more.

    Here’s the twist: I am a successful artist but she’s a long time engineer on one of the world’s best known software products and she makes almost five times as much as I do. If we split she’ll be living the good life and I’ll be a 55 year old living in a studio apartment and applying for Obamacare.

    • Someone
      March 27, 2014 (8:30 pm)
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      My case is somewhat different. I’m 35, successful, and turning heads alright. This winter, in the middle of Caribbean vacation my wife started crying telling me how sex with me makes her miserable.
      This had terrible psychological effect on me. I lost my libido completely.
      I started noticing something like bipolar symptoms in my self. Self esteem is very low…
      I hate her more and more every day… I wish she had a fucking horse instead…

    • wellroudedtxn
      June 6, 2014 (12:07 pm)
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      I’m 64 and married to my 3rd wife for 25 years. I’m on the verge of insanity for many of the same reasons in this trend. My wife is manipulative, passive-aggressive, mean, hateful, violent, volatile, vicious and vulgar in most of her speech! I’ve had enough and just want to finish out my days in peace, even if that means being alone for the rest of my life. I’ve tried the “kind and supportive” role, the “helpful spouse” role, you name it. Always the same (see 2nd sentence). I stuff it for as long as I can, then the slightest thing sends me over the edge, and there is another “episode” of screaming, cursing, name-calling and ultimately sleeping in the guest room for a week until she whimpers and whines enough and I relent to go back to “normal.” Insanity – doing the same things you’ve always done and expecting different results! I’ve got to leave, but just dread the firestorm when I tell her. O well, here goes….

  • Mark
    April 6, 2014 (10:22 pm)
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    I have been sticking around in a bad marriage for almost ten years now because can’t leave my kids. Not sure how much more of this happiness I can take.

  • Travis
    April 20, 2014 (9:04 pm)
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    I have been with my wife for 2 years, no kids (thank goodness for that). I know I want to leave her, but how do I make the fist move? I know I will lose a lot my family will dis own me, but that risk I’m willing to take. I don’t want to go further down this road when we have kids…..should I just settle out accounts first then I just leave one week end? Or should I fill her in? If I do I know she will be bitter and resentful and most likely not cooperate.

  • Young fool
    April 30, 2014 (8:31 am)
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    I have married a woman with two kids from her ex. Not sure what I was thinking. We have been together a year only to be married for a couple months what ever happen to the saying ” the best part of marriage is the first couple of months. Sad to say she can’t cook but I knew that when we met. She love to clean all the time so we have disagreements on where things are all the time. She really has gotten lazy waiting on me to do every thing go to the store, cook, take her places and ect. So along with us getting married we also moved to another state now that we have a fresh start she don’t Evernote try to find a job and she has a degree. She don’t try to find her way to deferent places she just waits on me and bitch bout how can she do any thing we just got here. I also have a child with my ex one girl she’s 4. She listens to me and have respect for me. Here kids on the other end do not her 3 yr boy has (HDAD) he’s all over the place but her 9 year old has the brain of a smart 26 year old. I’m loosing my mind plus I’m only 23. She 31. What am I to do? I feel as if am to young for this.

    • Nullified Visionary
      July 10, 2014 (12:03 am)
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      Our situations are somewhat identical. She’s 38. I’m 29. She had two kids before we met. We met online and she came to visit me a few times. She was an LPN by the way. Everything was awesome at first, she made good money, ordered me pizzas from out of state, cooked for me when she came to visit. The whole nine! I was only making about $9.00/hr at the time so having a woman treat me like that was the golden ticket. We’ll to make a long story even longer, she got pregnant moved in my house. I cheated (wrong I know, I know) and had an outside child. Five years later it’s me, her, our four kids, and her mother. $1100 worth utilities that I don’t even use (because I’m working all day), $1000 rent on an office building I started my own business with. Plus insurance and all. She’s had only one job for two months out of five years. I can barely get a sandwich for lunch. Currently don’t have clean underwear, so I’ll have to hand wash some here shortly or throw a load in the washer. And the kitchens a damn mess. No one else works and I’m busting my ass. Not F&(@!ng happy!. We should leave dude. Like now!

  • Lynette
    May 23, 2014 (8:11 am)
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    This article/comments sound just like my spouse. Divorce is such a relief for unhappy marriages. He insisted that we separate and divorce. He said it was the best thing to do, and that we would all get over it soon and that our kids would be fine. He went to bars, worked late, bought sports car, refused to go to marital counseling….you know….all the things that emotionally healhy men do. :-)

    All of that was before he started hearing crickets in his empty house….alone. Now- He does not act like he wants to be single anymore. He does not want the single life anymore. Would rather have rooms filled with family, wife and daughters, but now it’s too late. We are divorced.

    That’s right. I said it. Divorced. When he said ” I want a divorce”, I assumed that he wanted a divorce. So I filed, and never looked back.

    Be careful what you say and wish for. You just might get it.

  • Demi
    May 24, 2014 (6:46 pm)
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    I wish my boyfriend was reading this trend and find some inspiration. We have been together for two years, he got married to his long time girlfriend after we started seeing each other. His wife lives 500 miles away and they see each other once a month (if even). He tells me he loves me but he cannot leave his wife now. I got a job in another country so I’m moving on with my life, maybe he’ll realize what he had once I’m gone. We practically live together, do everything together 24/7, have amazing sex, its the most wonderful relationship I’ve ever had. I love him dearly. By the way, I’m 32 and he is 56. Any thoughts anyone? Will he ever want to be with me only or am I just fooling myself?

  • Jokanaan
    June 7, 2014 (6:49 am)
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    Gentlemen, the misery in your posts is unbearable. I understand something of what you’re going through. Please look at the following sites for enlightenment:

    therationalmale.com
    marriedmansexlife.com/blog/
    heartiste.wordpress.com (Chateau Heartiste)
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  • dam!
    June 25, 2014 (10:37 pm)
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    Yeah…i dont know what to do…i love my kids…partialy i love my wife…but im depresd..i dont eat…and i wish i could work forever…i hate my life..but i cant bring myself to leave…i want to cheat…trying now..but…i dont know…its crazy..same bulshit everyday…no lie…i cry guys…i go in my garage..i pic up my beer n smoke..n cry…

  • J
    July 7, 2014 (11:01 pm)
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    I am so done with my wife, but don’t know what to do. We separated briefly last year and then like an idiot I decided to try and “make it work” and start with a “clean slate.” I found out that when we were separated she tried to get her sister to not allow me to see my nephews. I never told her I knew because my sister-in-law swore me to secrecy. It still eats away at me that she is that manipulative. She has gained so much weight over the years that I am no longer attracted to her in any way and so we never have sex. She even points that fact out in front of our friends, saying things like “you need that” when testosterone commercials come on tv. We don’t have kids of our own but a stepson who is grown and just graduated HS, which was really the only thing keeping me around for so long. It’s been 7 years and I feel trapped, we just bought a house like 6 months ago when things were kind of going well. She was really the first woman I ever seriously dated and she’s older than me so I feel sometimes like I wouldn’t know how to date. The thing is she is constantly pointing that out to me saying things like “it takes a special woman to deal with you.” I know what she’s trying to do but I feel sometimes trapped. I need some advice, anybody ??

  • Jim Kirk
    July 11, 2014 (10:33 pm)
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    I really should’nt do it because of the baby but I admit I want to badly. I even found myself in the corner of our garage and I must’ve soaked myself in 2 gallons of gas this time before I snapped out of it, match in hand. And just the morning before I was stretching out a rope over the rail in our very same garage, that darn noose pulled a dozen hairs outta the back of my head this time before I chickened out and stood back on that chair.! She’s just such a needler and a nag. She thinks she is just so perfect. And believe me when I say she lets me know that I’m not. Constantly. Jumping my ass. “You didn’t do this, you can’t do that, you’re so stupid, big dummy, you’re so lazy” as she points to stuff she wants me to do all the time. I feel like Wyle E..Coyote with all the lumps springing up from my noggin after being hit on the head with the frying pan so many times. I carried a pocket knife in my pants for years, and finally did use it one day when she really went on. (I quietly stuck it through the pocket of my trousers and into the femoral artery in my leg in attempt to expire without notice ).. It took me 7 minutes but I finally quietly bled out and passed out mid-rant, white in our family room recliner as her complaint echoed thru the jasmine in my mind. Only unfortunately to awaken in the hospital to an inquisitive better half telling me, “You _hole, you hate listening to me that much!, and “you never listen to me”, and “well If that’s how you feel then”….bla blah making me ‘pologize, and beg her not to cry anymore, ah jesus….and made me more miserable…again. But really I should say fortunately and not unfortunately (as she did get me to the hospital in time somehow) because I do have a life insurance policy for her and my sons benefit. I will miss him so much if I have to go early, hey- I love you son…little pal…..hope ya read this one day…it’s tough man, it’s tough. You’re my boy Blue!… Don’t do it fellas, don’t do it! Don’t ever get married! Save yourselves. And girlfriends aint the answer either lads, I’ve got a few of them and got this wife on the side you know- and they all complain and correct all the time. And celibacy aint the answer. I aint sayin’ I got all the answers boys but a life of one night stands is lookin’ like the answer to me- If- you can haul em in.

    • good husband
      September 15, 2014 (9:58 pm)
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      I’m praying for you. I used to think about taking my life but I finally came to my senses. FUCK THAT!!! SHE IS NOT WORTH MY LIFE!!!! Depression can really have u contemplating some serious messed up stuff man. May God keep you strong bro and just know I feel your pain. Smh

    • Joe
      November 4, 2014 (1:00 am)
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      Coward!!!! Your son depends on you. You suck & the mother of your son is right unless you change your ways. TOUGHEN UP PAL!!!!

  • Bill
    July 17, 2014 (9:03 am)
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    When I first met my wife she tried to teach me about over indulgence. ( I smoke weed) Now I smoke more than ever cause I can’t deal with this stupid cunt. Fuck her and her stupid cunt mother!

  • Tor
    July 24, 2014 (9:16 pm)
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    Same old stories (although a few of you are strange overdramatic bastards!)…women basically becoming lazy, aggressive, unappreciated shrews who dont fuck their men…and then when we run off with someone else, we are the ‘assholes’. Unfortunately western society over the last 50 or so years has developed to a point where Men are always seen as the bastards and women as the untouchable victims. It has been a well implemented strategy from the girls and the female elements in the media.
    But what can u do. Basically…u can fuck it all and make urself happy….do the best thing u can by your kids…fight for them and for your right to be involved in raising them. Love them. As a man, i know that we love our kids as much as anyone. And get rid of the bitch and start again.

  • Eddie
    July 31, 2014 (2:56 am)
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    Didn’t like the ’10 reasons to leave your wife’ sarcasm. When you bin in a nagging, crap sexless marriage for decades anything gotta be better. .I’m aching to get out. Not for another woman but because I’m just plain fed up. Most the stuff listed in your ’10 reasons’ sounds great! I’m not interested I’m porn or endless games, just peace. The kids have long flown the nest and wonder why I put up with it. I am a practising Christian and pray about it constantly. Most the time she knows just how far to push me but I am waiting for the next big row and I’ve fixed up a bolt hole. She knows why I’m unhappy but does precious little about it. Says she loves and misses me while I’m away then gets on my case within hours of being home. Why isn’t there real help on the web for unhappily married men – like how to fix up a bolt hole, where to go, start a new life etc.

  • Jucole
    August 7, 2014 (10:52 am)
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    To all men saying that they stay for their kids… your kids can see that there mom & dad are not happy, therefore they can’t be truly happy. Think about what you’re teaching them… that they should stay in a miserable marriage when they grow up? Is that what you want them to think?
    My dad was an alcoholic & drug addict & parents never really kissed, hugged us, or said I love you. So, what I learned was this… You don’t really need to kiss, hug, or say I love you while in a relationship & it’s ok to be with a drug addict &/or put up with misery in a relationship because that’s what I learned growing up. Men, stop being pussies & making excuses for yourselfs & tell your wifes the truth. Women respect men who are honest no matter how painful the truth is & believe it or not but most women think that as long as you keep coming home to her everyday that, that means you really want to be there. Maybe if you told her how you truly feel, she would let you go if she has a heart.

  • Bill
    August 11, 2014 (11:15 am)
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    I see what you’re doing with your ten reasons, reverse psychology. But I think I f you’re thinking of leaving you’re wife for what ever reason, the marriage is already over and leaving is the only option and the ten reasons for leaving ( actually reasons for missing out ) don’t matter a dot.
    And yes, I’m leaving my wife of thirty years and three children all left home. and now when I look at her, I have zero in common with her. I for one can’t wait, yes it will be a struggle, but a struggle for the better..

  • Rob
    August 28, 2014 (4:59 am)
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    I Have been all over looking for solution to my Marriage until i tried out the internet, I found a prophet Mica whom people talked about and shared his website online http://livingspirits.webs.com, My wife has decide to leave our marriage, because he said he can’t stand my mom, But i love my wife so much that i can let her leave after 8years of marriage. So the prophet did changed the whole problems and issue to testimony, He did a spell to calm and reconcile my mom and my wife and then carryout a spell to make my wife love me more and remain in our marriage. I saw results after 2days and to be frank, this prophet is a God sent. My family is as peaceful and lovely as i asked for..I’m grateful.

  • lj
    September 8, 2014 (3:40 am)
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    My wife is a complete zero as a spouse. A dud in the bedroom. Lousy cook. Doesnt clean. Sleeps most of the day. As cuddly as a cactus. Wont work. Drama queen. Selfish. Shows zero affection and love. Id leave in a second if not for my kids. God forgive me, what the hell was i thinking when i married this bitch. Wish she would just run off with someone else or die already.

  • Tomas
    September 12, 2014 (11:39 am)
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    I love my wife, so much, and the sex is great, really great, yet. the problem is that i dont receive her complete support as i started to make my own company. I can sense she is jealous of my work, and the freedom i want to acheive. we have split like 3 times, for the same thing. to be honest, i might also treat her on a way she dislikes, but for 3 years we have tried to figure out how to treat us better, but it seems that we cant sync our emotions.
    on my side of the story, when thing are going down the toilet, i try to resolve, but she always comes whit a devasteting confesion. i think the worst thing is that she told me withing 1 year of marriage she wasnt sure about me when we got married. that totally broke my heart, yet i pickup the pieces for the love i had for her, and tried to be the man she expected, but i think that just made things worst. we were about to split again not long ago, but it seems like she really understood me, i gave her a chace once again but in the deep i dont feel anything. even when she confesed me that she liked someone at work and they spend time together lot, i felt nothing but a way out. maybe im a coward not to leave her, but im afraid of what people might think, and in the middle of my company getting new contract, i also fear that a divorce might give a negative image of myself as a not commited person for leaving my marriage, we have no kids and we bieng married for almost 6 years, im 29 and she is 27. i want to be happy but leaving her, is complicated, i know she has people that likes her, i never mind cause i was sure about me and her, and even if she though about them as atractive, i know just is human nature, as long as she didnt cheat on me.

  • miserable
    September 19, 2014 (9:37 pm)
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    Can relate to a lot of replies here…tx guys…same here 7 years married 3 kids I work insane amount she doesn’t work at all or do my clothes or fix me food or clean house I’m mr.mom and Mr dad. Would’ve left years ago if wasn’t for the kids. I’ve enabled this to happen unfortunately. Making my exit strategy now came home today with kids in house and her drinking vodka with a bunch of random guys. FML#

  • Didier
    September 26, 2014 (3:41 pm)
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    I’m fucking suffering here. I’ve got backache, eczema, trouble sleeping, crampy belly (IBS), stressful eating, headaches, arrhythmia, panic attacks and a plethora of other weird and unpleasant mini-symptoms going on. Sometimes at night, just before falling asleep I vibrate, my whole body vibrates. At first, I thought it was an earthquake, but it’s me. It’s me being tense, stressed out, sad. Do I deserve to keep on living like this? Have I done so much wrong that I’m condemned to keep suffering? Does it do anyone any good if I keep sucking it up, literally, until I conk over and die of an aneurism or a heart attack?
    I just want some comprehension, for ME. Someone who tells me it’s ok for me to take care of myself, to put ME first, someone who doesn’t judge me when I say I need to leave. Because either I leave or I commit suicide. It’s just not bearable for me any longer. I need someone to touch me, to caress me, to hug me, to say sweet things to me, to not judge me, to understand me. I NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO. Someone to understand the extent and scope of the suffering I’ve been through, someone who tells me that “you need to take care of yourself first, you’re no good to anyone in your condition”. I need someone to understand, to tell me it’s ok to leave my girlfriend and the kids. I need someone to SEE ME.
    Problem is, except for some fucking shrink who’s paid to say uh-uh, uh-uh and agree with whatever I tell him, I’ve got NOONE TO TALK TO!
    My girlfriend is not interested in the person I am. She doesn’t ask about my hopes, aspirations, dreams, wants, desires, fears, nothing about my soul interests her. I love to paraglide and sail, yet she’s never seen me fly or been on a boat with me. When I do talk to her about myself, she just doesn’t listen. She’s not my friend, she’s not my partner, not a confidant or even an accomplice. We only fuck from time to time, that’s about it. We don’t sleep together, I sleep alone in the attic!
    Sometimes I wish she would fall in love with another guy (because she tells me she loves me, another way of mentally binding me to her) and I tell her so. I even talked to her of Candaulism, tried to get her all excited about it, but no dice. It’s the guilt that keeps men stuck in fucked up relationships. Women rarely feel guilt-ridden. If only she were to cheat on me, I’d not feel guilty about leaving. I’d feign to be offended, slam the door shut and laugh my silly two-faced ass off all the way to my new home, a quaint little apartment or small house with an extra room for the kiddelies for when they come see Papa.
    I haven’t left yet, because I LOVE MY KIDS and I always wanted my family to stay together, no matter what. I come from a broken home and therefore want nothing more than to keep this family together. But the price is just too high and my kids won’t be happier if I’m going nuts, in the morgue or sick. I definitely won’t be.
    As I write these lines, I realize that this home is already broken. I realize that I’m happiest and most relaxed when she’s out of the house, when she’s off on a business-trip. I’m available for my kids, I’m gentle and patient and kind with them when she’s not around. In short, I’m the complete opposite of how I am when she is here.
    If I could just have someone neutral to talk to.

    • Happy life
      November 17, 2014 (12:00 pm)
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      Been where you are at bro. You need to move forward. Do it for your kids and for you. Trust me…you’ll be happy again. It is a process that you have to get through my friend. Don’t let it beat you. You mourn and it is tough…I know it so well. But, you eventually will figure it out and slowly you pull out ahead with a new agenda for life. Shit happens…move on and enjoy your life. Good luck!

  • Jon
    November 7, 2014 (7:46 am)
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    Not married but been with gf for 8 years and have 2 kids, I’d have left her like a shot but can’t bare to be apart from the kids.
    She is a horrible arrogant piece of shit who thinks I should be happy just that I’m with her despite how she acts, she got me to leave in January and I took the kids and later found out within a day she was with some dirty scrotum as ignored the kids for 6 weeks, begged me to come back and I did for the kids sake but she has treat me like fucking shit ever since, now we started the ball rolling on buying a house she acted all interested and as soon as offer was accepted she changed and just admitted she didn’t want to and wants me to move while she stays put.
    I’m so sick of her constantly playing me for a fool but can’t bare to disappoint the kids or put my happiness before there’s.

  • Jason
    November 16, 2014 (2:24 am)
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    I’ve been married almost 2 years. Been with my wife for almost 6. Things are horrible. I don’t know what to do. We move every year because she always finds something to hate about our home (landlord, size of the place, etc.)…. We’re in the middle of a move now. I’m doing everything but the cleaning myself. And yet she busts into the bedroom yelling and cussing because I left a small bit of trash on the living room floor at our old apt. I was fking lazy she said. She has a son from a past relationship who is 7. She constantly insults me in front of him and now he’s starting to pick up and talk to me like my wife. She never says anything to him but is quick to get pissed if I try to correct him. I ask myself at least 3 times a day why I got married. We don’t have sex. I think it’s been like 8 months now. Since we got married it’s been like that. Not that she was ever big on having sex at all. We did average better than 1 or 2 times a year. I missed my chance I guess to leave freely years ago. We were in the midst of an argument when I asked her if she was even in love with me and she said no. We did split for like a couple days but it didn’t last. Since I’ve met her I don’t have any real hobbies. I play video games and catch hell for that. I basically can’t have any interests that don’t involve her or her son. I can’t go out to a bar for a drink or two like I used to maybe twice a month. I can’t smoke ANYTHING at all… I really shouldve seen it coming early on when I moved across the country to be with her and I made a simple suggestion that we pick a church to go to and her response was for me to not come into the relationship making rules. Idk. I’m feeling lost. Like everything was a waste. I don’t want to cheat but can’t just leave right now. She’s put me into debt bad. We, well I have 4 loan companies that I owe and a car loan. She was in an accident a couple years ago and used part of the settlement to put down on a basically brand new car. I got the debt and the car in my name. I don’t even want that damn price of crap. How do I leave? What do I do?

  • Happy life
    November 17, 2014 (11:55 am)
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    This is the deals guy’s. You either make a decision and leave or stay and deal with it accordingly. Life is too short to be miserable. If the relationship isn’t healthy for whatever reason, leave it behind. Further, regardless of the issues, you loved your spouse at one time; otherwise, you’d never had married her in the first place. So, my point is…you loved her at one time, so there is really no need for continued drama. The longer you stay in an unhealthy marriage, the more bitterness you’ll feel towards her. My wife told me she wasn’t happy after 20 years of marriage. I fought it…tried everything to rectify my marriage. Didn’t work. I finally let my balls hang and told her fine…and I went and filed for the divorce. I think she didn’t thind I’d do it. I am not yet divorced but the final date is near. I have two kids and I’ve tried to remain civil for them. I hurt…but I have a job, still relatively young at 42 years old, and the rest of my life to live. I figured if she doesn’t love me, then it is time for me to fly. I look forward to the new transition in my life. Be true to yourself, your children, your life! It is not worth staying in a relationship that is not healthy and loving. I have finally figured this thing out. If she doesn’t want me…I need to move forward. Good luck to you all and God Bless.

  • Beeno
    December 2, 2014 (3:26 pm)
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    Thank you all guys, me too I’m in a same boat but scared to leave her and kids.She always yell at me calling me names (stupid idiot frustrated loser)in front of my kids.I tried to move out last year but she sensed and was very kind to me.I then stopped my moves thinking that i’m just crazy, I looked at her feel very pity for her but she always attacked me. She punishes me with nosex and no touching or curdling anymore. But after reading this blog no more looking back Thank you guys

  • Steve
    December 4, 2014 (1:19 pm)
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    Guys…I feel relieved after reading your stories -which I can relate to coz I thought there was something wrong with me. My wife has turned my life into a living hell. Actually I found this website by googling “How to leave your wife”……………..She is bossy, lazy as hell, can’t cook and does not work-always spending my money (has a degree)….watches too many soaps and too much of the kardashians…….not to mention I lost interest in her sexually 5 years ago after finding suspiciously flirty emails of her with another man ….I WANT OUT OF THIS HELL HOLE

  • Gary
    December 5, 2014 (10:58 pm)
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    I am almost 60, married 31 years and I want out. There wasn’t any sex for most of my marriage but that’s not the reason to leave. She hasn’t helped me at all and does nothing all day, never worked.
    I am just a meal ticket. I would be Ok with another woman came along but also if not.
    So tired of this. I need out

    • Mark
      December 15, 2014 (7:38 pm)
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      Hi gary like you I’ve been with my wife for 34 years married for 30 years – sex is now zero , I’m currently receiving the cold shoulder silent treatment and the menopause (thats a doozy). She comes home from work plays on her IPAD all night barely talks doesn’t help with the dishes or ironing – I am paying off a holiday 4 more weeks then I’m saving a slush fund to leave , i am a fireman and am about 2 – 4 years from retirement and i would be happy just to have my pension she can have the house . she left twice before and i never chased her or flooded her with text – i just thought well if thats what you want crack on . when she left i was left to cover all the cost of the house – Ive seen with fireman that do split it takes most guys about 12 months to go through the i hate you phase then the drink and shag anything phase to coming out the other side as most guys on here have stated a lot happier – if you have anything to add id love to hear your thoughts

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