5 Hard Choices We Made During Our Reconciliation
With the release of “Lost + Found: Finding Myself by Getting Lost in an Affair“, Laura and I want to begin sharing some of our experiences from the past two years. It has been a tough road for both of us, and we’ve learned a tremendous amount in the process.
The reality is that most marriages don’t survive an affair.
We feel so grateful to God and one another for the opportunity to keep growing in our relationship through a second chance. Frankly, there were some hard choices that we both had to make in order to even have a shot at developing the marriage we truly wanted. Over the next week, we’ll share via video and text the five hard choices we made during our reconciliation.
- I Shut My Mouth.
David gave Laura the freedom to set the pace, and Laura began taking initiative.
- We Looked in the Mirror.
We dealt with our own issues…not the issues of our spouse. - “I’m Sorry” Wasn’t Enough.
We expressed remorse over our shortcomings and failures in our marriage. - We Waded into the Pain.
We gave each other the grace to process the loss and changes in our lives. - We Ignored the Haters.
We chose to listen to the healthy voices who were cheering us on.
We want to hear from you! As we share our heart and experiences, let us know about your learnings as well.
"I'm sorry" will never be enough – we have had to live our commitment to addressing and changing the issues in our marriage that brought us into crises. Living out the changes happening to each of us has not been easy, because we know each other so well. And we had learned to not trust one another. It's painful, but personally I had to release my fear of yet another affair to God. Literally I had to pray, "whatever happens, this all belongs to God". What did that look like? No more checking the mail, email, cell phone records, bills, etc. was only the start. Yep, it is still a difficult and painful process. Am I a better person? Well, I have learned that I am a daughter of God, and continue to conduct my life with that as my banner. It's a living amends.